Wednesday, 3 April 2019

Best options by Michael Scarpaci to scatter ashes

According to Michael Scarpaci, manager of Scarpaci funeral home in Staten Island, there are various things you can do with your loved one’s remains after the cremation. Although the options include burying the ashes in a graveyard, entombing them in a columbarium, or storing them in an urn at home, some people choose to scatter their loved one’s ashes.  If you’ve no idea about where to scatter the ashes of a loved one, don’t worry! Below Michael Scarpaci has explained some of the most popular places to scatter ashes.

Private land - One of the best places to scatter your loved one’s ashes is private land, including a field or garden. If you’re considering this option, make sure you take the prior permission from the landowner. Also, consider visiting rights. For instance, if you choose to scatter ashes in your garden, and you move house, many years later you will not have any right to right to visit that place.


Rivers - Another popular place for scattering ashes is streams or rivers or lakes. Well, when it comes to rivers, you don’t need any permission to scatter your loved one’s ashes. However, Michael Scarpaci advises checking with the Environment Agency about the stretch of the river you’re considering to use.

Nowadays, some people also cut flowers or petals in the ashes to mark the occasion as one of remembrance and to see the ashes flow down the river. But, you should avoid casting plastic flowers or wreaths into the river because this will pollute the water body as well as the environment.

Sea - As compared to a burial at sea, scattering ashes at sea is an affordable option. This is because burial at sea requires a license and special coffin. The good thing about scattering ashes at sea and many coastlines and beaches is that it doesn’t require any license. Plus, scattering ashes at sea is accessible to the public. However, you need to consider people who use the beach and choose it as a spot away from fishermen and swimmers. Before you scatter ashes, also get yourself familiar with wind conditions.

Mountains and hilltops - Mountains and hilltops are one of the most beautiful settings to say goodbye to your loved one. But, you need to consider some of the things before scattering ashes on the mountains and hilltops. Cremation ashes are not toxic, but they can have a serious impact on plant life. Therefore, you need to avoid scattering ashes on mountain peaks with fragile plant ecosystems.

Plus, also consider that popular beauty climbs and spots may have several visitors and it may be difficult to a private place to say goodbye. As hilltops and mountains are very windy, so stand upwind while scattering the ashes.

Lastly, there is no particular rule to scatter ashes all in one place. You can scatter ashes of your loved ones in portions. For more information on scattering ashes, approach Michael Scarpaci.

Thursday, 28 February 2019

Tips on overcoming funeral fears by Michael Scarpaci



Do you feel overwhelmed every time you think of attending a funeral service? Don’t worry!

 You’re not alone to feel that way. Many people live with the fears to attend to funeral service. 

According to Michael Scarpaci manager of Scarpaci funeral home in Staten Island, funeral fears 
may also cause you to think whether or not you should attend the funeral. However,these fears 
shouldn’t keep you from honoring a deceased person and bidding farewell.

There are a number of reasons that you could feel stressful with the thoughts of attending a
 funeral service. For instance, a person with social anxiety might not feel comfortable 

attending a funeral ceremony where they have to meet or interact with various people. 

If you’re struggling with funeral nerves, Michael Scarpaci has given tips to overcome funeral
 fears. Read further!

Talk about your fears and anxieties - The best way to calm your funeral nerves is to talk about 
your fears and anxieties you feel while attending a funeral. You can open up about your fears
 with your family member or a close friend to let some of the stress away and to cope with your
 emotions better. 



Never be scared to show emotion or to cry - Always remember, it’s absolutely okay to express
your emotions. There is no need to suppress your tears or maintain your self-control while attending
a funeral ceremony. Don’t be scared of what will people think if you get carried away with your
emotions during a funeral service. Don’t worry! People will understand.


Find a partner for support - If you find yourself overwhelmed with funeral nerves, make sure
you have a friend or partner who can accompany you at the funeral. This way you will not alone
in the funeral service. With a helping hand and some support, it can be helpful and comforting for
you to deal with your emotion.


Calming funeral nerves using dog support - Using dogs as a comfort companion at a funeral
has been gaining popularity in the US. Losing a friend or a family member can lead to a distressing
time. So, having dogs in a funeral service can help people to relax for a while and distracting from
an overwhelming emotional time.



Besides these, you also need to be kind to yourself. Mindfulness is one of the best techniques
you can use to regulate your breathing and feel restful. On the other hand, aromatherapy oils
like chamomile or lavender and a hot bath can also be a soothing way to prepare yourself to
attend a funeral ceremony.








Monday, 28 January 2019

Tips For Guests At Funeral By Expert Michael Scarpaci

Funeral is an extremely stressful time for friends and family. Emotions run high and even smallest thing can lead to an outburst. It is extremely essential for the guests to behave properly and respect the rules set by the family of the deceased. According to Michael Scarpaci, manager of Scarpaci funeral home in Staten Island, funeral is a place to pay respect to the deceased, behaving or dressing inappropriately can lead to the family feeling disrespected. Here are a few tips by the experts to behave in the respectful manner at the funeral.
  • Take all the care to make sure that you arrive on time:- One of the most basic tips that need to followed no matter who you are is punctuality. Arriving on time is important. It means that you not only respect the deceased but also their family members. Thus, calculate the time it would take you to reach the funeral home and add in the time for obstacles such as traffic or detours. Also take in to account the accessibility of parking or how long does it take for you to reach the place. Make sure that you reach at least ten minutes before the ceremony is about to start. In case you are late, enter quietly. Do not create any ruckus.
  • Turn off your electronic devices:- Any device with its notifications sounds, even at lowest volume, disrupts a funeral ceremony. Keeping your electronic devices on ringing means that you and your time are more important than the deceased and their family. Keep your phone on silent and do not answer it during the ceremony. Wait until the ceremony is over and then answer the phone by going outside.
  • Dress properly:- Dressing right is another important aspect of funeral etiquette. Traditionally, black is the color of funeral. However, if a situation arises and you are unable to wear black, find a subdued color in your wardrobe and wear it. Make sure that your attire is conservative. Avoid wearing jeans or any kind of revealing clothes. Avoid hot and happening colors such as red, yellow, orange and more. Do not wear extremely high heels. If you are confused, then think about corporate interview and wear what you would choose to wear there.
  • Respect the cultural and religious choices of deceased and their family:- If you are invited to a funeral ceremony for someone who had different religious practice than you, google beforehand about it. This way you will know what to expect. It will also make you feel more relaxed. 
  • What to do if you have to bring your children?:- Funeral are adult events. However, if you have to bring in your children, make sure you talk to them beforehand so they know how to behave and what to expect. Tell them that they will have to sit quietly and not to talk during ceremony.
The above mentioned tips by expert Michael Scarpaci will help you to navigate through the funeral and respect the deceased and their family without feeling awkward.

Sunday, 13 January 2019

3 Iconic Breakfast Items That Are Must Try During Your New York Visit

The majority of people visit New York not only to experience the pizzazz and the excitement the city is well known for but to experience the journey of food in the city. Food is an extremely essential part of the New York City. It is in this city that you can enjoy the food of almost all cultures. Before you get lost or are unable to find the right place to have an amazing breakfast, here are top three choices by New Yorker, Michael Scarpaci:
  • Eggs Benedict at Delmonico’s:- Delmonico’s is not only the New York City’s oldest restaurant but also an institution. It was founded in 1860 and since then its breakfast has become staple dish for the New Yorkers. The classic dish is a unique interaction between English muffin, poached eggs, Canadian bacon, Hollandaise sauce. The Eggs Benedict is named after the regulars of Delmonico’s --  Mr. and Mrs. LeGrand Benedict. This dish best enjoyed with Bloody Mary.
  • One of the regular’s at Delmonico’s is Michael Scarpaci. He is all praise for the Eggs Benedict and holds his annual Christmas party at the restaurant. 
  • Pancakes at Clinton St. Baking Co. and Restaurant:- Another must visit place in New York, if you get craving for pancakes is Clinton St. Baking Co. and Restaurant. Since 2001, Clinton St. Baking Co. and Restaurant has been serving the most fluffy and amazing pancakes. The pancakes are created from egg whites and are served with banana walnut, chocolate chucks, and wild Maine blueberry. The short stack of the pancakes is served with maple butter which makes it one of the must have breakfast items to have.
  • Chicken and rice platter at The Halal Guys:- No matter where you are, you will always find halal carts in the city. The question is which one to buy the food from. The best halal cart is The Halal Guys. The rice and chicken platter is considered best in the city and with tossed vegetable and the white sauce it is also healthy.
If you are visiting the New York City, make sure that you try out the above mentioned 3 delicacies. For a full New York experience, make sure you add hot dogs, fried calamaris, and the typical NYC pizza on your food bucket list.

Sunday, 23 December 2018

Tips Of Being A Pallbearer By Michael Scarpaci

Nowadays, people are aware of all funeral etiquettes. They are also much familiar with the role of a pallbearer in the funeral services. If anyone of your close relative or friend has passed away, you may be asked to serve as a pallbearer in the funeral service. Have no idea about a pallbearer? - A pallbearer is usually responsible for carrying the casket from the funeral home to the hearse. Michael Scarpaci, the manager of Scarpaci funeral home in Staten Island, says that if someone is asked to become a pallbearer, one should consider it an honor. It is like the deceased’s family is putting their trust on you to carry the casket carefully to its destination. 

If you’ve already accepted to become a pallbearer, Michael Scarpaci explains below the tips to become a pallbearer in the funeral service.
  • If you got doubt about anything approaches the funeral director - Well, the funeral director has been doing this since a while.  So, they may know almost everything. If you still have any doubt, feel free to approach the funeral director for help and advice. They will tell you all from how to transport the casket safely to when you will be taking your pallbearer duties, where to stand/sit, brief you about your role at the cemetery, and anything else you’re not familiar with.
  • Be the one who arrives early and leaves late - If you’re asked to become a pallbearer, make sure you arrive at the service at least 15 minutes early. You don’t want to become a reason for stress on the family thinking whether you reach before the service or not. Also, try to leave the place a bit late. As you’re representative of the funeral ceremony, if you stay back and attend the guests will a great thing for the family.
  • Dress formally - Dressing formally is one of the etiquettes people have to follow while attending a funeral ceremony. Being a pallbearer, it becomes more important to wear a dark suit, tie, and shoes. Make sure you have a decent hairstyle and avoid too much jewelry on the funeral service.
  • Take your assigned place - Usually, a special section in the front is reserved for the pallbearer to sit during the funeral ceremony. Unless there is an urgency for you to go behind otherwise, try to be with the other pallbearers for the funeral.
  • Consider it as a responsibility and honor - As a pallbearer, you got one of the most significant duties of the funeral ceremony. Accept it with respect and dignity.
  • Relax, don’t fret! - Don’t panic with the thought of dropping the casket! All you need is to relax. The funeral director and staff will take care that you prepared enough for the task.
If you ever get the chance to become a pallbearer, accept it with dignity and honor. It is the most crucial role in the funeral ceremony.

Sunday, 4 November 2018

4 Tips To Navigate Go Through A Funeral Reception By Michael Scarpaci

Death of a close friend or a family member is traumatic. The pain to lose a loved one takes time to heal. However, when someone has to host a funeral, the pain and the grief needs to be kept aside to ensure the proper planning and hosting of the funeral. Michael Scarpaci, manager of Scarpaci funeral home in Staten Island and Brooklyn provides the following tips to easily navigate through the funeral and reception with ease and poise.
  • Plan the reception thoroughly in advance:- The first thing that needs to be properly done is the planning of the reception. Managing the grief is tough but do not let it get in the way of giving the loved one a proper send off. Make sure the catering is organized and all the work is done so that you can mourn with others. Even a small disarrangement or problem could lead to state of heightened grief. 
  •  Keep your outfit simple:- Attire plays a huge role in the funeral reception. Right outfit keeps you from feeling uncomfortable. Wear the dress and shoes that are comfortable and somber for the occasion. Try to think your outfit ahead of the time. Many people keep an extra outfit to ensure that they can change when they want to.
  • Surround yourself with support:- Generally a funeral is only for the friends and family of the deceased which means that there are going to be a variety of people that you may like and a few you do not. If you feel out of the place, surround yourself with the people you love and who are able to understand you grieving and mourning.
  • Maintain distance from conflict:- Having a conflict in a funeral is rough. It will not only affect your mental well being but that of the  loved ones attending the funeral. People respond differently to the stress of losing someone. It is not only the loss of the loved one but the pressure of the funeral expenses, finances and the unresolved conflicts that often lay dormant until the funeral. Thus, before you feel yourself lashing out. Avoid the conflict and be polite to everyone you see.
The above mentioned four tips help the loved ones to navigate through the grief and pain. Planning a funeral requires a lot of grit. A funeral director helps the family to make the right decisions and work towards planning a proper funeral and its reception.

Sunday, 14 October 2018

Reasons why you should consider pre-planning your funeral

If you haven’t plan your funeral yet, you must do it now. There is no better time than today to plan your funeral. Now, you must be wondering what's the need to pre-plan a funeral? Because planning a funeral brings along many advantages for you as well as your family. Can you plan your wedding or any celebration in a few days? Of course not, right? So, why leave the best celebration of your life to the last moment? Michael Scarpaci, a share holder at Scarpaci Funeral Home, advises that pre-planning a funeral is a wise decision to make. 


The following are a few of the reasons why you should consider pre-planning your funeral ceremony.

You don’t want to put the burden of your funeral on your family - If your wishes about your funeral remain unknown to your family, they will have to face a difficult time deciding your funeral. How will they know if you want to be cremated or buried? Will all your family members agree on a close or opened casket? Lack of planning often leads to confusion and disagreements among people. All this can be solved or avoided if you leave behind your funeral plan.

You want your family to enjoy the benefit of a meaningful funeral -
A funeral is important for mourning family. Typically, it is the time that offers a sense of closure and allows the family to start the healing process. Families usually get benefit both socially and emotionally by respecting the lives of the departed souls with a perfect funeral ceremony and by organizing a proper send-off.

You want your last wishes to be fulfilled - If you wish that your remains should be disposed in a specific way and have a plan about the nature of your funeral services, you can mention them all in your funeral plan such as the preference for cremation or burial, the epitaph on your headstone, or the reading, video or the music at your funeral.

You want to take on the financial responsibility of your funeral -
Pre-planning a funeral allows you to make a financial arrangement to fund your funeral ceremony. Michael Scarpaci will help you to pre-plan everything you want at your funeral ceremony.

You want to be self-sufficient even at the last affair of your life - 
Planning a funeral is a thoughtful and caring thing one can do for their family. It is such as a relief to know that you have done everything that can reduce your family burden.

Well, death is the real truth that no can deny or ignore. Pre-planning a funeral helps the family to arrange a personalized funeral and help them to overcome the grief.