Death of a close friend or a family member is traumatic. The pain to lose a loved one takes time to heal. However, when someone has to host a funeral, the pain and the grief needs to be kept aside to ensure the proper planning and hosting of the funeral. Michael Scarpaci, manager of Scarpaci funeral home in Staten Island and Brooklyn provides the following tips to easily navigate through the funeral and reception with ease and poise.
- Plan the reception thoroughly in advance:- The first thing that needs to be properly done is the planning of the reception. Managing the grief is tough but do not let it get in the way of giving the loved one a proper send off. Make sure the catering is organized and all the work is done so that you can mourn with others. Even a small disarrangement or problem could lead to state of heightened grief.
- Keep your outfit simple:- Attire plays a huge role in the funeral reception. Right outfit keeps you from feeling uncomfortable. Wear the dress and shoes that are comfortable and somber for the occasion. Try to think your outfit ahead of the time. Many people keep an extra outfit to ensure that they can change when they want to.
- Surround yourself with support:- Generally a funeral is only for the friends and family of the deceased which means that there are going to be a variety of people that you may like and a few you do not. If you feel out of the place, surround yourself with the people you love and who are able to understand you grieving and mourning.
- Maintain distance from conflict:- Having a conflict in a funeral is rough. It will not only affect your mental well being but that of the loved ones attending the funeral. People respond differently to the stress of losing someone. It is not only the loss of the loved one but the pressure of the funeral expenses, finances and the unresolved conflicts that often lay dormant until the funeral. Thus, before you feel yourself lashing out. Avoid the conflict and be polite to everyone you see.
